Slow down my beating heart
I think for a long time, I've been operating under the assumption that I would somehow just stumble onto a relationship that would miraculously work out always. I can see now that this is not the right attitude; a big part of making a relationship work is working on yourself, asking yourself the tough questions about why you react the way when you do when certain things pop up, and figuring out on a day-to-day basis how you can apply what you are learning to treating your partner with care and compassion. It's a lot of work, even just thinking about it. But the good news is that there's help out there, if you know where to look for it.
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Oh fuck that graphic looks terrible on my mac. I'd better fix this once I get home.
You're too critical. Besides, it looks fine on my PC. Maybe you and your snooty Mac can just suck it!
I'm sorry for the outburst...I'm feeling some pent-up aggression right now and have nothing to take it out on except for your self-criticism. Cheers, Ray.
I've always found that the stumbling into a relationship part is somewhat easy; it's the making it work part that is difficult. Duh, way to state the obvious, Katy.
Seriously though, I think you're right that a big part of making a relationship work is working on yourself. Growing as a person is difficult enough to do but growing as a person WITH someone else who is also growing is doubly hard. Trying to grow together and not lose the essential things that brought you together in the first place can be a bit of a challenge.
Not that I know anything about that. I've basically been the same self obsessed goober I have been since I was 13.
As always, tou make some really excellent points, Katy. The whole relating/growing thing is hard. But if you're not growing what's the point? In other words, it may be hard, but it's worth trying.
And no worries: I'm still 14.